Dear Winter,
There are so many big life questions in my head lately… who am I, what is my purpose, what is love. My friends don’t get it. I spend way more time listening to their petty problems than talking about real issues. Who can I talk to about all this? How do I keep these thoughts from consuming me?
Dear Confused,
Those ARE some big life questions! Most that you probably won’t be able to find a direct answer to. You may have to live and grow to figure out who you are and what your purpose is, but that’s the beauty of life. And ‘What is love?’ Love is a question that decades and centuries of people have never been able to figure out. If you need someone to talk to, a mentor with more experience like a sibling, parent, neighbor, or a close friend are all good options.
I hope this helps 🙂
Winter
Hi Winter,
Ever since my best friend got a new girlfriend, we’ve been spending less and less time hanging out. What do I do?
Dear Lonely,
I’ve been in your place before and it can be hard. Your best friend probably seems more into that relationship than your friendship, right? So maybe you should tell your friend that you feel like you guys are growing apart ever since he got a girlfriend. Or you can always just stand at the sidelines until their relationship goes downhill. The way I lived with it was that I let my friend do her own thing with her boyfriend and I went and invested my time in becoming better friends with other people. I never stopped inviting her places or making them both feel included, even when it got uncomfortable. I let their relationship play out and was there for her to fall on when she needed someone. That’s the person I am though. I know others that have gotten frustrated and abandoned the friendship altogether saying that if it was that easy for their best friend to drop their friendship for some girl then it probably wasn’t worth all that much in the first place. How you react is your choice.
I hope this helps 🙂
Winter
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